Today’s fashion trend may not be favorable for most people as they are too bold and daring. Because of this, it has been a debate about whether clothing has something to do with the alarming number of sexual abuses. The 2015 San Francisco Women Abuse Statistics show the soaring number of sexual abuses, both reported and unreported. Does rape have something to do with what the women were wearing? “Society needs to stop re-victimizing the victims of sexual assault (“What were you wearing?” “Did you drink too much?” “Did you resist?” “Are you sure he knew you didn’t want to?”) and focus its efforts on teaching perpetrators of this crime that people’s boundaries and rights must be respected at all times,” says John M. Grohol, Psy.D.
Three Reasons Why Clothing Doesn’t Have Anything To Do With Rape Cases:
- No clothes literally speak, “Rape me!” Fashion, nowadays, may be too revealing, but humans are naturally sexual. They think whatever they desire. Rapists feel the urge regardless of what the woman is wearing, and this has been proven many times. Most rape victims were even wearing decent and unrevealing clothes during the time they were abused.
- Sex addiction, hypersexuality, hypersexual disorder, compulsive sexual behavior, or sexual compulsivity is a mental health condition where an individual is urged to think of sex, and it may be irrelevant whether the object of desire is wearing appropriate clothes or not. The eyes see beyond the layers of clothes because the mind may already imagine the person.
- Our eyes may play a vital role in stimulating our emotions. However, our actions are not entirely based on what we see. Rape becomes it when one person gives in to the urge of having sex with someone who doesn’t consent, and it takes more than the eyes to do such a crime. “Everyone has the right to refuse and change his or her mind, and to feel uncertain towards something. Any time someone does not respect another’s personal wishes, any sexual act between them is no longer consensual but rather an act of violence/assault,” says Hung Tran, Psy.D.
Clothing may play a vital role in determining identity. Often, it sends the wrong message because no person would want to be violated, and it is not right to blame rape cases on what women are wearing. Yes, it may be too much, but no matter how thin or small the piece of clothing a woman is wearing, nothing is equivalent to the message, “Rape me!” “Rape is often experienced as an annihilation of the ownership of self — a loss of the self’s ability to act, to make meaning or register what is happening, to remember. Feelings are overwhelming or numbed. Narrative is destroyed. There are no words for what is too horrific to comprehend,” according to Suzanne Phillips, Psy.D., ABPP.